These books will teach your toddler to talk about their feelings

It’s hard enough for grown-ups to talk about their feelings. Asking a toddler to understand and cohesively express complicated emotions is a bit of a lofty request; at times, it can feel like a completely futile one.

Happiness, sadness, excitement, nervousness—these are more than just vocabulary words for a little one to learn. These are emotions that have real mental and physical manifestations; they can make our hearts race, our palms sweat, and our tears fall. It’s not easy for a toddler to wrap their little brain around how “big feels” can have big effects on our bodies and minds. It’s confusing, to say the least. (We’re still trying to fully grasp this ourselves.)

One way to help your little one process their emotions and find the right words is through reading. Nothing puts things into perspective like a little parent-child story-time session. So curl up together on the couch, cuddle in, and calmly flip through a few sweet, silly, and meaningful books that seek to define and describe how our feelings affect everything we do.

Want to give some feelings-forward books a browse?  We’ve rounded up 10 toddler books about feelings to help you teach your child to channel and express emotions in a productive way. Whether your tyke is going through a difficult behavioral stage, exploring new friendships, or struggling with change, these options can help your kiddos identify and navigate all those confounding feelings and hard-to-articulate thoughts going through their heads.

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Lots of Feelings, by Shelly Rotner

A picture is worth a thousand words—especially when you’re trying to explain a difficult concept to a child. This is one of our favorite books about emotions for toddlers; it offers real-life photographs of children to show the facial expressions that accompany common feelings. It’s a great way to give kiddos visual cues to help them express their feelings and decode those of the people around them.

The Way I Feel, by Janan Cain

Young kids don’t have the vocabulary to tell you what is bothering them, why they’re agitated, or if they’re feeling super silly (although incessant giggling is always a tip-off). Their pent-up emotions may explode with energy—in a good or bad way. This book gives kids the rudimentary language they need to learn to be able to express the highs and lows they experience on a day-to-day basis.

Today I Feel Silly: And Other Moods That Make My Day, by Jamie Lee Curtis

Toddlers can be fickle. The slightest little thing can send a little kid spiraling and pivot his or her mood—and not always for the better. This book addresses the perpetual pendulum of moods we may feel in a way that will make little ones knowingly laugh and smile. The message is that yes, you might get cranky or feel suddenly goofy or unexpectedly experience a moment of sadness, and that’s all okay and normal. All feelings are valid, and you should give yourself the time and space to process them. Of course, that might sound a little heavy for a three-year-old, but it’s written in an approachable and age-appropriate way. What’s more, the last page features a color wheel that little kids can use to help express their feelings.

Hands Are Not for Hitting, by Martine Agassi

It can be frustrating, if not infuriating, for little ones when they don’t have the words to express their big feelings. When they aren’t getting their needs or wants met, hitting seems like a natural way to be seen and heard. This book, written by a clinical therapist and behavioral consultant, teaches even the youngest of toddlers that there are many incredible things our hands are capable of doing; but hitting should not be one of them.

The Pigeon Has Feelings Too!, by Mo Willems

If you have an older toddler who has taken a liking to Mo Willem’s famous pigeon series, this book is a must that offers a humorous perspective on multiple feelings. The bus driver tries to convince Pigeon to make a happy face, but the erratic bird has other emotional ideas. Key feeling words are highlighted throughout the book to reiterate the moods we all feel from time to time—because sometimes we just don’t feel like putting on a “happy face.”

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The Color Monster: A Pop-Up Book of Feelings, by Anna Llenas

The Color Monster’s emotions are all jumbled up, and he’s having trouble understanding how he’s feeling. A little friend helps him “separate” all of his mixed-up emotions by categorizing them with a specific color. This helps the Color Monster become more self-aware and learn how to identify his many moods. This fun book is full of whimsical and bold illustrations and fun descriptive words. Plus, toddlers will love the pop-up element.

Happy Hippo, Angry Duck: A Book of Moods, by Sandra Boynton

Toddlers (and grownups) will love the sprightly prose and charming illustrations in this simple board book that breaks down a variety of emotions with humor and whimsy. Boynton’s signature animals all use funny, silly, and clever facial expressions to depict different emotions—even the grumpy moose and worried rabbit look adorable, despite their discontent!

Grumpy Monkey, by Suzanne Lang

Bad moods happen—and sometimes with no due cause. Such is the case for Jim the chimpanzee. His friends don’t get it and try to snap him out of his funk, but Jim just wants to wallow for a while. Written with humor and charm, the message of this book is strong: it’s okay to sit with your feelings for a while.

Reading about a wide range of emotions can help your child become more socially aware and understand how to react, behave, and communicate—so grab a book and enjoy some quality time together.

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