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Tips for potty training a boy

Potty train your little man successfully using these tips and tricks

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Every child is different, and that especially applies to potty training. You may have successfully potty trained one child only to struggle endlessly with another. But there are some useful tips and tricks which can help you get there successfully.

If you have a little man who is transitioning into the stage of being ready for potty training and you are looking for some guidance on potty training boys, we’ve rounded up some of the best advice from the experts. When it comes to how to potty train a boy, there are different things you can do to encourage them to use the potty when they feel like they have to go.

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Be sure they’re ready

You can kick start the process by talking to them about what is going to happen with potty training. Mary Gavin, M.D. for Nemours Kid’sHealth recommends you should talk to your child about “identifying” the process, such as asking them if they have to go “poo” or “pee.” Gavin also recommends using small words for them to understand better.

Another thing you can do is to have your toddler let you know that their diaper is soiled. That way, they can start recognizing what it feels like and how they will benefit from potty training. When they become uncomfortable in their diapers or disposable underwear or don’t like the feeling of even wearing a diaper anymore, you know they are ready to be potty trained.

Find the right potty

Locating the “right” potty for your son is very important. They have to be comfortable with the potty they are using, otherwise, all of your hard work will be for naught. Many small children are rather intimidated by a large toilet seat, so it’s best to get a smaller one for them to sit on.

Dina DiMaggio, M.D., writing for the New York Times, said, “Often pediatricians find it is easier to use a potty chair, or a small portable potty that your child can sit on while placing both feet on the ground.” Having these smaller potties eliminates the fear of using a big potty and many small children’s fears of falling into the toilet. A potty chair gives them more comfort and a place to put their feet on the ground.

Encouragement

Positive reinforcement is so important when you are potty training a child. Dr. Michael McKenna, a pediatrician from Zionsville, Indiana tells TODAY, “Celebrate the little victories. Figure out what will inspire your kid to make good decisions.” This does not necessarily mean that you need to give them a piece of candy or a toy when they use the potty, but by telling them how proud of them you are, they will then feel that inside themselves. Toddlers enjoy that feeling and very much want more of it, so they will start doing their best to try and use the potty.

Sit or stand?

When it comes to potty training boys, many make the case to begin potty training them sitting down. This takes the guesswork out of it for them. They don’t have to think about two things at once just yet. Many also believe that this will ease up on the “mess factor” of potty training. Dr. Maureen O’Brien, Ph.D., director of parenting and child development at The First Years, in Avon, Massachusetts tells Parents, “It’s not just because of the mess factor. When a child is learning, you want to keep the number of variables that he needs to think about to a minimum. Deciding whether to sit or stand can cause him to hesitate a few seconds—and those seconds can be crucial.”

Get creative

Any parent who has ever potty trained a boy knows it can get messy, especially until your little guy learns and understands that he needs to control where he’s peeing. To help eliminate the mess, try placing your little guy backward on the toilet seat so he is facing the tank. This helps them learn to “aim” down into the water while also making it a little more difficult for them to walk away.

The Potty Training Consultant suggests giving your little guy some crafts to work on as they sit to keep them occupied. The more comfortable they are, the more likely they are to relax their bladder, making their trip to the potty a success!

Final tips

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Help them feel comfortable

Once your child has found the right potty for them, help them choose a location in the home where it is easy for them to sit down when needed. It should be a place in your home where they are comfortable. Jen L’Italien, certified Oh Crap Potty Training consultant and owner of Oh Crap Potty Training From ME To You said to CNN, “It can take time before kids are comfortable with flushing. And you don’t have to rush the child to flush the toilet.” So, finding a place in the house together is a great idea. That way, everyone is happy.

Be consistent

Consistency is key when it comes to potty training. Even just having them practice by sitting on the potty with their clothes on, even if they don’t have to go can be effective. This is to get a sense of when to take potty breaks. Accidents are going to happen, but we shouldn’t let accidents discourage them from potty training.

Once you know that your child is ready to start potty training, get ready for it. A good place to start is to get them some gear. A step stool for reaching the sink to wash their hands is good to have on hand. Other items include a potty seat, special soap to wash their hands, and anything to make it special for them. These helpful tips will help you accomplish your potty training goals.

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