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Why do toddlers cry in their sleep and how can you help them?

Learn the facts so everyone gets a good night's rest

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Have you ever woken in the middle of the night to your toddler’s cries, only to discover by the time you’ve run to check on them they are back asleep? If so, you’re not alone. If your typical happy-go-lucky toddler is suddenly crying out in their sleep, it may make parents worried something may be wrong. As if toddler behavior isn’t difficult enough to figure out when they’re awake, parents need to know why toddlers cry in their sleep.

The good news is toddlers crying in their sleep is a normal part of their development and doesn’t mean there’s anything troubling your child you should be concerned about. In fact, this behavior has a variety of different causes. Learn some of the reasons why toddlers cry in their sleep and if there’s anything to do to help prevent it, so everyone gets a good night’s sleep.

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Your tot’s sleep patterns could be off

Ensure the same bedtime routine happens every night

Because babies and toddlers are still growing at a fast rate, they haven’t yet developed a consistent sleep pattern. In some cases, when babies or toddlers cry out in their sleep, it’s simply an indication of them ttransitioning from one sleep cycle to the next. If this is the case, they will more than likely settle down on their own.
Parents magazine also notes toddlers crying in their sleep is almost the same as if children were to talk in their sleep. This is typically nothing to worry about, but being overtired brings it on, so they suggest ensuring there is a consistent bedtime that allows for ample rest. Consistency is key, so try to have their bedtime be the same every night and that they sleep in the same spot.

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Nightmares and night terrors make things scary

Sleep specialist Rafael Pelayo, MD, an associate professor of sleep medicine at Stanford University School of Medicine, explained to WebMD that parents may need to consider nightmares or night terrors as the reason for their children crying out in the night.

The first thing you can do is to look for any physical problems that may be disturbing their sleep,” Pelayo suggests to parents who are dealing with this. He goes on to say, “If there doesn’t seem to be anything physical causing them to wake and stir, then it’s time to talk about the nightmares. Tell them that they are always safe and that nightmares and dreams are like paintings and drawings, meaning that they can paint a nice picture or scary picture.”

Night terrors may be more disturbing for a toddler. “Night or sleep terrors are not nightmares,” Pelayo added. Children will have no memory of a night terror, while they will often remember a nightmare and wake to realize it wasn’t real. KidsHealth writes that toddlers who have experienced night terrors are sometimes overtired, ill, stressed, taking a new medicine, sleeping in a new environment away from home, not getting enough sleep, or having too much caffeine.

If you think your child is experiencing night terrors, experts suggest not trying to wake your child, but simply waiting it out while ensuring their safety. Cadence Education does note sleep regression is common around 2 years of age, so sleep disruptions are often not something to worry about.

Toddler being comforted in bed after a nightmare.
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The sleeping conditions need to be just right

Sometimes toddlers cry in their sleep for any number of reasons, but one is because they are like Goldilocks, and those sleeping conditions need to be just right. We all have our preferences for temperature at night, and toddlers are even pickier.

Being too hot or too cold also does the trick to interrupting their rest. Checking the room temperature and dressing the toddler appropriately may stop them from waking with a fright. Overstimulation also causes a child to cry during sleep, so creating a soothing and calm sleep environment is key.

We all have our quirks to get to sleep and stay asleep. Light off but fan on, but socks off but blanket on. It’s a process. Find your tiny tot’s settings and they should get back to sleeping through the night.

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Check your toddler out, tummy to bottom

  • Are they fed?
  • Are they dry?
  • Are they going through a growth spurt?

A toddler may cry during the night if they are hungry, which happens if they’re going through a growth spurt or simply decided to not eat much during the day. We aren’t saying have a midnight feast with your toddler, but they need more calories during the day.

The growing pains that come with growth spurts are no joke, and a spasm would wake your toddler up in an instant, and just as quickly stop, sending them right back to sleep. Try gentle massages on their legs and arms before bed to ease their discomfort.

A soiled diaper may also cause a toddler to cry in their sleep, simply out of discomfort. Who wants to sleep in a wet diaper or pullup? A quick change will send your little one right back to bed.

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How to approach the sleepless nights

There is a difference between your tot having a night terror or nightmare and just having a poor sleep schedule. Knowing the difference and making sure you keep tabs on the reasons behind your toddler’s nighttime wakings will help get the house back to quiet.

If they wake up at the same time every night, try waking them up before they scream

If things are happening consistently, make a note of what time your little one wakes up crying, and start waking them up about 15 minutes before then for about a week. It’s like resetting your electronics when they won’t work right.

Look for other symptoms with the crying

Have you noticed your child experiencing jerky movements in their sleep? Excessive or sudden drooling? Does your child’s body go stiff while sleeping? There are other medical conditions that could be the underlying reason why your toddler is crying in the night. Note what else is going on to bring to the pediatrician’s attention.

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What parents should keep in mind

It’s all about the night routine and keeping bedtime consistent

If your toddler cries during sleep, you could always check on them to ensure they are safe. If you think your child is experiencing night terrors, they are repeatedly crying out in their sleep, you haven’t been able to determine a cause for it, fear they may be in pain, or the sleep issues are affecting how your tot functions during the day, it may be time to contact your doctor.

Parents want to reinforce healthy sleep habits and establish a healthy sleep routine by eliminating stress before bedtime, having a consistent bedtime routine, and being consistent with how they respond when their child cries. Find a bedtime routine that works, and stick with it. It doesn’t have to be an hour long, or require three stories, but it needs to be the same.

Proper sleep is so important, not only for growing and developing toddlers but for parents who are on the go all day with them. If your toddler cries in their sleep, it’s not usually something to be worried about, but it’s important to know the ins and outs behind the behavior so each parent can react accordingly. And so the whole house gets their beauty rest.

Kelli Catana
Kelli is a freelance writer who has covered the world of entertainment, pop culture, parenting, and lifestyle for various…
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