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Why do toddlers take their clothes off when they’re angry?

Although toddlers are little, they have extremely big feelings. Sometimes these emotions are cute or even a little funny, but during full-blown tantrums, those same emotions can be far from amusing. When the meltdown begins you may find yourself asking, what is going on with my tot?

From holding their breath to kicking and screaming, our littles express their anger in unique ways. Sometimes these behaviors may seem unconventional. For instance, some toddlers take their clothes off when they are angry. Like mini Hulks, your toddler’s anger may boil until he cannot contain himself and the clothes come off.

This behavior can be humorous at home but is not so silly when you’re out in public. What causes our toddlers to disrobe? Find out more about why toddlers take their clothes off when angry and how parents can stop them from doing so.

Sensory overload

Toddlers experience so many emotions throughout their day. These big feelings are new and scary and your toddler does not know how to properly self-regulate these feelings yet. This difficulty processing emotions could cause a sensory overload making her feel the need to rip off her clothes.

Your toddler may take off her clothes when she is having a difficult time managing her anger to either remove the sensory input of the clothing or to gain sensory input from her environment. Dr. Julie Braciszewski a licensed clinical psychologist, explains, “Oftentimes, kids desire to explore the world without barriers, and removing clothing removes a physical barrier.”

Attention seeking

Another possible reason your toddler strips down in a fit of rage is due to seeking attention. Think back to the first time your tot took off his clothes during a tantrum. How did you react? If you reacted very strongly, your child may continue to exhibit the same behavior in the future to get a similar reaction.

If our toddlers are not receiving enough positive attention, they may seek out negative attention instead. Tamar Jacobson, Ph.D. and early childhood development and education consultant, claims our toddlers need our attention: “If we know anything about child development, it is that very young children actually actively need our attention.”

She goes on to explain that, “Brain development research shows us that in order to feel attached and worthwhile, children need our love, touch, and full-on attention to survive.”

Uncomfortable clothing

Similar to sensory issues, your child may find her clothes uncomfortable. Dealing with uncomfortable clothing may be more manageable when your child is happy or distracted. When your toddler becomes angry, their tolerance for scratchy tags or loose shirts may lower. Your tot may seek the easiest solution: taking her clothes off.

Clothes can create different sensory reactions. Shirts may be too itchy or pants may be too tight. These issues may become exacerbated when your kid becomes angry. Colleen Beck, OTR/L, explains, “We have fabrics that are scratchy and prickly causing anxiety and keeping us on edge not allowing us to focus on much of anything else other than getting it off.”

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Being a toddler is difficult: their whole life is scheduled and decided for them. Toddlers do not get to decide if they wear shoes or when they get to leave the park. Tantrums can often result from not having a say, and how your kid expresses their anger can be an act of control.

“When a child lacks a sense of personal power or significance, they will seek out control over their environment,” Olesya Leskel, LPC, MHSP asserts. Undressing may seem silly, but doing so quickly allows your toddler control over their immediate environment.

How to help when toddlers take their clothes off

Speak in if/then statements: If you put your clothes back on, then we can have snack time. By using if/then statements instead of telling your toddler what they will do, you give your toddler a sense of control.

Get creative with their clothing: Taking your toddler out in public may seem impossible if she frequently undresses when she is angry. In order to stop the disrobing, or at least slow her down, you can put their jackets with buttons or zippers on backward. You can try switching to pants that button and zip instead of pants that are easy to pull on and off.

Check your toddler’s clothing: Take notice of how your toddler acts in their clothes. Are there any types of clothing he does not seem to like? Does he have more frequent meltdowns when certain shoes are involved? Understanding how your child feels about his clothes can help keep his clothing on in stressful situations.

When your toddler takes off her clothes when she is angry, she is communicating with you. In order to best tackle this issue, determine what may be causing your toddler to undress. Once you have figured out why she is undressing, you can tackle how to keep her clothes on, even when she is angry.

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